My partner said he would support me either way but I knew deep down to him it might as well have been the end of the world. Yes, Im still pregnant. I was 5 weeks and didnt know it. But I want my baby so bad. I dont know how Im going to get over this. Use "He" or "She" When Talking about Her Baby. In South Africa, 85 000 abortions were induced in the year 2010 according to abort97.co.za. I feel like Im losing either way; if I get an abortion, Ill most likely regret it, and if I dont, Ill struggle as a single mother. My pregnancy was miserable I was depressed and anxious all the time and often wondered if I made the right choice but the day my son was born I knew I made the right choice. No baby should be murdered by its mother. My parents would have had to raise the child on the other side of the country and I knew I wouldnt have been able to bear being away from it. The 20-week ban adds another hurdle. I have searching for someone going through what Im going through but I have yet to find it. Everyone had always said about decisions like this that you need to be 100% sure either way but I wasnt sure either way at all. If my partner would of came to me and said he wanted to keep this baby I would have and I would of felt more love for him because his courage. It cant be easy and its hurtful for the man youre suppose to be with to embed abortion in your head after telling you, you two could try again. But in reality I know who the dad was because of what had happened on the night we spent together but it did not help my decision as I felt so ashamed. It would have killed me alive to have given birth to those children and given them a life they did not deserve. I tell him I dont want an abortion, but nothing about this makes sense. We went to the clinic, me, my mom, and my boyfriend. But deep down I know I might regret it if I abort it. I had been taking pregnancy tests every cycle for the past six months just to have peace of mind. We chose 3 yrs ago to decide to be Childfree. I am totally against abortion. We left the hospital with him saying we can try again. I moved to another state, finished my undergrad (with a newborn) in teaching and even completed grad school also in teaching (with a toddler at the time). My supports at the time were my boyfriend, a few very close friends my age, and my 4 younger siblings (3 were under 6 years old at this time). Three years later, I look back on that day as the most difficult, important, unforgettable, and un-regrettable moment of my life. During that time, I had to learn a lot about our choices were, and I didnt want to scroll past your comment without sharing some of that knowledge. I have tried to persuade her to look at forums or see a psychiatrist to help her through the guilt but she doesnt want to be associated with the stigma attached with it. Ill always be one. I feel guilty because I strjuglle to show real excitement when I know others want to when they find out and I feel so false trying to bounce off their energy. Hi there reading this story made me cry so bad Even if i dont want an abortion, i have to do it for my future and my boyfriends future. Dont forget the chips! I waited for him on the couch in our front room, digging my thumb into the ridge of my index finger on both hands. I feel she was a girl. I had not long been in a new job that I had wanted and worked hard for. Anti-abortion and abortion-rights activists argue their viewpoints on the steps of the State House in Trenton, N.J., April 30, 1973. Do NOT submit poems here, instead go to the. Id give anything to see my baby smile. I was very confused. I cant quit my job, but I cant afford 2 in daycare either. I might have forgotten what I learned and failed my license exam in the future since Id have to take a leave. I would do things so differently. We have been having the same unprotected sex as we were while still together. They were in no particular order: I broke up with your dad and essentially kicked him out of our apartment. Today its been 1 year since the surgery. Your dad is an alcoholic. She had a support network that would have helped and supported her but being very self sufficient wodnt allow her to acknowledge at the time. I was diagnosed with a form of heart disease two years ago and the first thing I thought about was how it would affect my life and the babys life. I have a three year old. As a minor in highschool who lives with her boyfriend (of 2 years), I had to have a termination back in September after finding out I was pregnant days before the dads birthday (Aug. 28). God has a way of pulling us out of any situation and will guide us and provide strength. He told me to decide between him and the baby and he would leave. Dear Mom: Letters from an Aborted Baby Week 1 Dear Mom, I know you don't know I am here yet, but I am really excited to spend the next forty weeks with you and never be apart. I dont have the financial capability to take care of a child. I dont want to regret terminating my baby but what if I get into a situation where I cant get out of? Gone by The Head and The Heart plays, and I publicly cry at the lyric. Mothers should never be bored of their children. But I already feel connected and cry so hard every time I think of letting it go. Like something to be dealt with, a burden that was his cross to bear. Im confused and feel horribly alone. Im so confused. I had abortion almost 4 years ago and it still affects me greatly. I look for my child for twenty years but I was never able to get pregnant again . January 22, 2021 - The anniversary of Roe v Wade - 48 years of legal abortion in all fifty states. Please don't cry, remember that I love you and I'll be waiting for you with open arms. I was pursuing an academic career and never had the chance. Its a hard decision, Hi there Im in the same situation, dont know what to do Im so sick ? the world makes us feel weak. I cry. Please keep your baby. I never knew if I wanted kids or not or if Id make a good mother. I dont know if hes being dramatic or not but he thinks we will lose our home because we are barely making ends meet with one in daycare. I literally cry every moment I think of aborting it. I too had an abortion a couple of days ago 1/10/20. My biggest fear is not be Abel to give my girl a sibling I will be 39 in a couple of days so . I had an abortion 6 years ago at 41 years old and was the one and only time to have a child I always wanted. Open Letter Concerning the Killing of "Baby Amanda" On November 3, 2022, National Public Radio (NPR) aired the sounds of the killing of a Child through abortion. I cry also. I would never say that Im over it and my biggest regret is not being careful enough to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. A lot of people who are not able to have children would love to adopt. I just had an abortion a couple days ago and I was 7 weeks. I ask for the pill and she hands me it along with a cup of water. Sharla Ynostrosa | 01/11/2021. Sending love to all of you going through this situation . All Ive ever wanted is to me a mom. We have only been together 8 months though. Ive been employed in my feild for the past 4 years (student hires are highly sought in this feild). She gave her baby girl up for adoption, and now that baby is an adult. I never felt more disconnected to anyone in my life. I texted two of my closest friends. I knew that if I went in for an ultrasound and saw features on that monitor.. there was no way I could go through with it. Labor would begin, usually within 12 hours, and the baby would be expelled. I stared and I watched the second line darken and become more prominent. Days away from her second abortion, she wrote that getting the abortion is the "right decision for myself, my daughter, and this child." If anything more of their fault because they shoot the load but were the ones that have to suffer through the pain. Every now and then I am haunted. When I told him I was pregnant the first thing he said is lets get a chicken sandwhich. Please look into and join the face book group I Regret My Abortion there is a logo of a rainbow. 5 years after that we accidentally get pregnant and have a beautiful baby girl but even after having her I still retreat my choice and he still blaming me as he should I guess but we live a very sad life am trying to have another baby but he is not making as much trying as I do because he say am with you only for my daughter and am living for her to but she always ask for a sister or brother I dont know what to do .so much happened in our life that I think wouldnt be happening if I just have my baby and get married with him . In my heart i know that baby would have deserved better, but is it ok to feel THat way? I dont know what to do but I see no way out of this. Thanks for this wonderful piece. I wanted an abortion but my boyfriend wanted us to keep the baby. My grief has been unbearable the past 5 days since I had the abortion. I did an abortion 10 years ago and never disclosed to my them boyfriend who is now my husband. Whitney. Ugh. I am heartbroken. Be strong for me hold on to me Baby. I feel I will never stop crying and never stop being broken hearted at my loss. I felt very depressed after I let you go - many days were hard to face, some I didn't. I told myself it was hormones. God bless you and your family. There was no internet to look up information, and she didn't know about pregnancy . Luckily I was able to talk to my partner who was incredibly supportive but there were so many reasons for this not being the right time for us. And with this tornado in my mind, I wrapped the pee stick (that represented my fate) in toilet paper (which, I couldnt help thinking, was a pretty good metaphor for what was now my life). These letters are an appeal to all who read them to choose life. Would you call that dad-approved? I know my baby deserves a life I couldnt of given her now or at that time and I know one day she will come back to me, I get excited when i think about meeting her finally one day when we are both ready, I wish I had support here so I could cry to someone who gets it, Im 23 and I had my abortion at 5 weeks and three days in April. I commend you for making that choice. She assures me, You dont have to do this. I tell her, I do. I compose myself. All the best to you <3. Like you, i have always wanted to be a mom and it was so hard to make this decision. I have three healthy children 21,17 and 13 from a previous marriage. I swallow hard several times until the pill burrows into the back of my throat like a rock. Im almost 6 weeks pregnant and although I want this baby, my husband does not. Ive always wanted to be a mom, and already, I feel like I know you and yet I cant have you. I dont want having another baby to be detrimental to my current children and cant help think that it will be. She told me he has a live in girlfriend for 6 years and the girl has a 10 year old son that is not his but he helped raise. Anyway. I am nearly 25 now and had an abortion at 17. I prayed for him but I let fear control my decision. We were told if we wanted children we would have to make a concerned effort. Feel so alone and feel like I will never get over this. In pregnancy, to be "late term" means to be past 41 weeks gestation, or past a patient's due date. Made the biggest mistake of my life 4 yrs ago. Oh and one more thing abortion doesnt affect your fertility. It always feels unfair that the times I get pregnant, I had to terminate the pregnancy. I cant be a single baby mama, with two baby daddies. I was never able to have a child, she was my first and only chance. I'm still alive. I had my first and only abortion 10 years ago at age 22, my partner who turned into my husband were together for only 2 months and the uncertainty left me with the choice to dissolve my pregnancy at 5 weeks. My daughter knows that Im pregnant and its a very stressful and uncomfortable situation. ??. They are a group of loving people who have been in your position. to NOT have to make this decision. In his remarks before Congress, Dr. Levatino describes in gruesome detail the procedure of killing a 24-week-old unborn baby. I went through every logistic financial, physical, mental to see if I could go through with it. I found out I was pregnant today and through the tears, I scheduled the appointment. It took almost 6 months and I delivered my poor child.. Your situation is mine. it really makes my decision i made 10 months ago seem like the right one. This brings me to a previous pregnancy right before this in which I unfortunately miscarried. Diary of an Unborn Child is the title of an anonymously-written anti-abortion article which was first read on the floor of the New York Senate in 1970. Weve trien for 8 yeats now and decided that if I turned 30 which is Dec of this year and I am not pregnant, we will give up. I dont understand how someone who has children already, can be so selfish and cold hearted. So many of the feelings you described in your post match mine, and as I read, I finally felt something other than alone. Thank you again. Wish I could turn back time. I too, am at the beginning of my career and am receiving more opportunities to advance as well but I have a long way to go. As I was peeing, I thought, Well, its definitely going to be negative since this isnt my first pee of the day. My boyfriend says I should abort it. You were crying, but I was dealing with the most pain of all. Even with his support, the support of my mother, sister, and friends.. ? To this day I cry in memory of the child that could have been. He said he would be there no matter what, but I still didnt want to force a family on him if thats not what he wanted. I have images that its the same as trying to kill one of my current children. It's a first-person account of a single mom who had an abortion - and nearly died - just two years after abortion became legal across the United States. "Please pray for this woman to continue to stand firm in her choice to give life to her unborn baby," the pro-life organization wrote. I dont know what to do. After I check in, I have to take another urine test. I am pregnant now and I know many other girls who have had an abortion that have had children. I miss my baby every day. Then I went into early menopause at 34 and never had kids. Top human rights organizations are calling on the United Nations to intervene over the destruction of abortion rights in the US.. Its a hard feeling to know that there was energy of ours creating a life for 8 weeks. Im 8-9 weeks pregnant, i have not told him since we are not together although we still engage in sex. He made it clear that he did not want to have another child and truly no matter how bad I felt I wanted my baby, I did not want to do it by myself. You'll be grateful in eternity! ????? I cant get the ultrasound picture or the thought of the potential of my baby out of my head. It breaks my heart to know that the only two times Ive been pregnant ended with me terminating. This is me right now,I dont know what to do its so hard. The saline solution burned the baby's skin and poisoned him or her. She comes to me in my dreams at least once a week. And understand that by forcing your boyfriend to do something he isnt ready for you may ruin your relationship with him. I found out I was pregnant the same day I was supposed to get an IUD inserted. I was pregnant for the first time when I was 29 years old . I had gone off my birth control a year prior and I didnt get my period for six months; then once I did, they were not predictable: they always came, but my cycle wasnt steady. Im in the beginning of my nursing school. Guess what? Its been 7 years since my abortion, and I miss her. I sat on the toilet and watched as my destiny-deciding urine diluted with water, coffee, and last nights wine crept across the screen. The situation was messy and It all feels like a blur now. Id like to represent other womans stories not only my own, does anyone have any advice or an opinion on the matter? I want to be respectful and listen to people who have been through the same as me. Everyone at work keeps getting pregnant and every time I hurt. Tell your friends, I dont have many friends but Ive told my closest ones. It took me months to get back to normal, probably because of the hormones, and I got severely depressed and anxious. I havent gotten pregnant the last 2 years since being off birth control and we already have two children as it is. God has forgiven you and you should try and forgive yourself. It is a very heartbreak-ling sad feeling. I am so sorry you had to go through this. (Sense my sarcasm, little one.) If it makes you feel any better, abortion is highly unlikely to affect your future fertility equally though Im missing my baby a lot. My boyfriend was completely supportive of me and even now when I talk about the baby he knows that it makes me feel better. From the moment on, he has told me to get an abortion, that its not the time. My first pregnancy ended the relationship because I betrayed him, although he would never step down from his responsibilities , and thats how he made me feel. And to be honest, your dad and I werent using protection. At times I couldnt walk, couldnt eat, loss 9 pounds in one week, shortness of breath and felt like I was having a heart attack. That's exactly what I need to do for you. I feel like a failure for being the one who could not be seen as a wonderful choice to raise a baby with. All I wanted to do was feel your skin and smell you. Like you, I was always so excited to become a Mom and I felt a sincere connection as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Know the Issues. We hope to be parents one day and in honour of everything that has happened and what we have been through are doing everything we can to build a secure future so that when the time is right we are prepared. Love you lots!!! . And I too pray from the core of my heart that you all get back your unborn ones. Thank you for sharing your story. I hear you and Im there for you. How are you coping? Love to each of you xxxxxxxxx. What if I still had no money, no stable place to live? The connection is like no other. Im doing my final major project in my fashion degree and want my final collection to be inspired by my experience. his mom knew, she had taken me to my appointment. However he didnt. locating a private donor and/ or coparent online Now, Im regretting every single day of my life. I was accepted into a Masters program the day before. It all means the same thing. I couldnt talk to him about keeping it because he would panic and and say it wasnt plausible anytime I showed attachment. A group of doctors and conservative medical groups is suing to overturn the FDA's approval of mifepristone and a federal judge could rule to cut off . Im very open about discussing this, but its been difficult. We chose to end our family after two children. My husband has made this time incredibly difficult for me. Since graduating, I was lucky to be hired right away at my DREAM job in my field. When I first found out I initially was a bit upset but over a few days I grew very attached. Im 9 weeks, and he pretends like it does not exist. The dad had permit and he wanted to have the baby And he even offer to get merried because I also was afraid of telling my family and I said no with in 3 or 4 days after founding out I abort our baby . I am with someone who I cant bring myself to tell and I am starting to feel emotionally and mentally effected by it. Abortions do not occur in this time period, so the phrase is contradictory. Ive been her best friend for 6 years and I never saw this coming. The place we live doesnt have space for a baby and we are only just building our savings. How you still suffer over the very thought of it. Would the Republican's bill force that teenager to. I want to help the conversation start on a different platform and educate. We sleep in the same room that night, and the next day he drives me to work. I'll make you breakfast on Mother's Day My arms ache for you. A letter from an unborn baby: fHi mom!, how are you?, I am doing just fine thanks. Let me tell you some things about me. I have been battling with the decision for some time now, had an appointment yesterday and didnt go because the voices of those who tell me I need to have the courage to keep the baby keep ringing in my head and those that guilt trip me on the decision of abortion and how wrong it is. I dont want to do this, but the dad is not ready and I am not able to care for a child alone at this point. Even my close friends dont know this time. I am 31 and had an abortion in November last year at 10 weeks pregnant, which was later than I thought too. Hi. I aborted even though my heart ached and I loved it every day. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old with my husband but prior to that I got pregnant with a guy who I was on and off hanging out with and I decided to do an abortion because I knew he would not be there for me to support me on my decision but to be honest with you I do regret having to abort it. Nothing in life is easy but in this case you should try making a list. Its what he wants. She told me she was flattered but nothing could stop her from the abortion. I was six weeks pregnant . Now he blames himself and cries like me everyday. I loved you, my first, my only.. Unborn Child's letter to Mom !!! I feel like the biggest failure in the world. Im Ill never be sure if I made the right decision, but Im financially incompetent right now. My room mate and best friend had an abortion two days ago. I felt like death every day sometimes unable to stay out longer than 2 hours outside. It takes courage to share your story, especially with so much honesty. As the embryo grows I am constantly conflicted. I wish this decision wasnt so hard. I didnt know you, but I loved you. Heartache and emptiness daily. Its nice to see other ladies have the same emotions and I know when the time is right my baby girl will come back to me (: This might be a bit forward and seem strange of me but I have been through this twice before so if you would like someone to talk to or any support you are welcome to contact me anytime x. I just had mine this afternoon. I hope I only delayed meeting my next little one instead of completely losing out on one unique beautiful baby, Thank you for sharing. Hi guys im 24 yrs old. But its only 5 weeks so its nothing more then a pack of cells still, right? There are no other words. And, I dont know If I ever would have met my husband of now and not really sure of he would stick around with me having a kid from somebody else but regrets are one of the worst thing that you go though when you make a decision like this.

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